Counting My Blessings

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It is now more than a week since my last post. The fact that I don’t feel the need to write as much anymore is a good sign. Time does heal after all.

In the recent years and months, I have witnessed sufferings of others which not only dwarf my own, but in fact make me view my life as full of blessings. Some examples I am listing below.

A friend discovered that her husband of 15yrs had re-married behind her back. She discovered this when she was recovering from delivery of her third child. It has been years since and she has accepted the fate. Financially, he provides well for the family; she stayed with him but raising her children practically single-handedly with hardly any emotional support from the man she continues to love. I am blessed.

A young acquaintance, married for 5 years said she made love with husband at most once a month. She said he meditates a lot in lieu of sex. Yeah..right..soon enough she discovered the third person. She kicked him out, he begged for her to take him back when he lost his job, and she..bless her heart...took him back...now they are trying again for a baby. I am blessed..in that she chose to trust my counsel like a sister she doesnt have.

Another couple had just completed a year of married life. During the year, she gave birth to a son. But she wasn’t celebrating their anniversary because she has learned that her husband has continued his relationship with an old flame. I am blessed.

One tough lady was divorced by her husband at least 7 years ago. He took her daughter away and she has not had a chance to see her again. The child is now 10yrs old. The only thing she knows about her mother is that she is a bad bad woman because that's what her father tells her. I am blessed.

A father of seven raising his children alone after his wife died of childbirth. I am blessed.

A father of two was taken to the cleaners by his wife. She left suddenly with everything movable that they owned, except the two children including one still in diapers. He raised them both on his own. Just when it got easier with both of them going to school, she sued for custody. The children have been shuttling back and forth between the two parents, depending on the latest court order, with no end in sight. I am blessed.

A couple married for donkey years, with children old enough to have their own children. She gave up her job when they were married. The husband is now having a mid-life crisis. No job but with an affair. She is now dipping into her meager savings to continue her daily existence. I am blessed.

A friend from school, having a great career, gifted children, understanding husband...the perfect family. Or so she thought. The husband is having an affair and she doesn’t have an inkling. The wife is always the last to know. I am blessed.

I have my family, sans husband. I have my job which I still enjoy. I have my health. I am free to go anywhere and do anything anytime that pleases me. I am blessed.
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